My Friend Is Looking For Her Biological Brother...Please Share!!

I met Bonita through my husband, Jeff, years ago. They were co-workers at Cintas. She's a huge country (and K102) fan. A few years back, she moved to Florida and I've mostly kept up with her life through her Facebook posts. When I saw this one, I reached out and asked if I could share her story and maybe even get some help from all of you!!

Please share and let's see if we can help her out. Thanks!!

*UPDATE: Bonita emailed me more about her story...

I have always known I was adopted and knew that my birth mother had 3 kids before me (said so on my adoption papers I had). My boyfriend bought me an AncestryDNA test. I sent it in and got the results back, with no real "good/close" matches on it. Months went by, and while at work one day I got a message on Ancestry from a guy saying I came up as a close match. I look and sure enough, there he was as a new match. His name is Wade, and he lives in HI. We connected, talked a lot, and came to the realization that we were related by birth mother.  

Then we put our P.I. skills to work. Months went by with nothing. Then I got a new DNA match for a guy named Carl. I looked this match up on a background check site, and found a number for a lady named Linda. We got her number and Wade called her right away. She then talked to me later that night and was very nice and very interested in our story....then when I told her what I think is my birth mothers last name, she got really weird on the phone, and basically ended the conversation. What I didn't know is that she actually hung up and called what is our aunt. Our birth mothers sister. The aunt then asked for photos of Wade and I. After she saw them, she said "there is not doubt that is my niece and nephew. I said what is this aunts name.....I found her on Facebook, and sure enough, she had the same last name as our birth mother. I looked the aunt up on the background check site, and there is was.....a relative listed that matched my adoption paperwork of the birth mother and what her birthday would be and how old she would be today. I told Wade "I got her...".  

So side note.....the reason this Linda lady acted strange, was because she put two and two together, and was in shock because NO ONE knew of Wade and I in the entire family. In fact, the birth mother told SOME people/friends that Wade had DIED AT BIRTH! (what!?!) So, the 3 other children that my papers said my birth mother had before me, one of them was NOT Wade. It was actually the 3 girls she had during a 10 year marriage. So now I have found 1 brother and 3 sisters. Neat! THEN.....the aunt tells us that she thinks there is a 6th child.....excuse me....????? So I asked the birth mother 3 times. She said no each time.  

Putting our P.I. skills to work again, we found our birth mothers ex-best friend. Got her number, called her, and sure enough....she told us the truth. The birth mom and Teresa (best friend) worked at the same company. The biological mom traveled for work to the U.K. all the time. She said she woke up at the hotel and bio-mom was gone. She called the client there were supposed to visit that day, and they said "Oh no she's at the hospital and had a beautiful baby boy!" Apparently Teresa didn't even know she was pregnant.  

One daughter went over to her mother's house (biological mom) and asked her in person. She was there for 3 hours asking. FINALLY....she gave in and admitted she went into labor near Manchester, had baby Michael, and gave him up for adoption. One of the other daughters called me after our sister left her mothers house and said are you sitting down...... "It's true...there is a 6th child, baby Michael....and it's your FULL BLOOD BROTHER." At first I was in shock. Then after a day went by, I cried. Realizing I have a full blood brother out there is absolutely insane.

Fast forward about 2 months or so and I have also discovered through 23andMe that I have another older sister as well from my biological dad. Fast forward another month or so and on Ancestry I get another hit and that turns out to be another older brother. And the older brother.......my bio mom, knew about him since 2002 but never told me, and still hasn't, and I have still not confronted her about that.

There is so much more, and more details that are just not even believable, but I'll save that for the book and movie deal ;-)

So Michael doesn't even know it, but he has 7 brothers and sister in the United States and we are all on a mission to find him. I am sure his name is not Michael Schmidt anymore, since it's beyond rare to keep your birth name when adopted. I hope he wants to be found, and I hope that he knows he's adopted. If not, we are for sure going to hit a major road block. Because he could see these FB posts and such but it may not even phase him, you know? So fingers crossed. My original post has had over 1,000 shares in the USA, England, Scotland, Ireland, Australia, even Portugal.  

Thank you for letting me share all of this with you. 


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